Are They Toxic, or...

are YOU the Chaos?

Find out if you’re dating the devil or just deeply triggered 👇

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When your partner breathes wrong, you... *

Take a deep breath and assume the best.

Assume they’re obviously doing it to piss you off.

Go full FBI mode to investigate why they’re emotionally unavailable.

Snap, “Can you NOT breathe like that around me?!”

During a fight, your go-to move is... *

Active listening and staying curious.

Door slam, block, then maybe unblock after you calm down.

Cry, scream, overexplain, then apologize for your apology.

Bring up something they did 6 months ago, mid-argument, for extra spice.

Do you trust your partner? *

Yes — I feel safe and secure.

Not really… but I’m trying.

No — but I haven’t left. I’m just silently collecting evidence.

LOL trust is a myth. Stay dangerous.

Your nervous system feels MOST at home when... *

It’s calm and regulated.

There’s just enough chaos to keep it interesting.

You’re love-bombed then ghosted.

You’re on the edge of a breakdown, but calling it "passion."

Your biggest relationship fear is... *

Losing real intimacy.

Being the one who fucks it up.

Settling for “safe” love that feels boring.

Being vulnerable enough to let someone actually love you.

When someone tries to love you deeply, your inner voice says... *

“I deserve this.”

“They’ll leave eventually.”

“What’s the catch?”

“Abort mission — feelings detected.”

What happens after a fight? *

We repair with grace and take responsibility.

I emotionally evacuate, then come back like nothing happened.

I go into silent punishment mode — if they cared, they’d know.

I stalk their socials to confirm I’m still mad for a good reason.

When you don’t get a reply fast enough, you... *

Assume they’re busy and trust the connection.

Type out 47 messages, delete them, then text “nvm.”

Spiral into imaginary scenarios where they’ve moved on.

Assume you’re being abandoned and consider setting their stuff on fire. 🔥

Be honest: Are you the drama? *

Nope. My therapist would vouch for me.

Sometimes… but I always clean it up.

I’ve got a PhD in self-sabotage.

I'm not just the drama — I direct the drama.

How do you react when someone gives you honest feedback? *

I take it in and reflect. Growth over ego.

I get defensive, then spiral about being “too much.”

I nod, agree, and then low-key resent them for a week.

I find something they did wrong in 2018 and bring that up instead.

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